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It’s not about just being rich, it’s about being passionate. Tesla CEO Elon Musk recently converted James Bond’s vehicle into a working submarine, after winning the car at an auction with a $866,000 bid.

There are so many greeting cards, movies, and songs about the power of love that it seems like love should conquer every roadblock in its way. How is it possible that love can seemingly move mountains and yet you can have World War III over how your partner brushes their teeth? Clearly, there must be more to maintaining a good relationship than strong feelings. Our habits and behaviors around cultivating a relationship can make it last longer than mere emotion alone. See our list of ten ways to work on your relationship below

1. Don’t Give Up

The most important ingredient in maintaining a relationship is actually staying in it. If you are serious about your partner, do not leave at the first sign of trouble. Every relationship, no matter how good, will have problems. Work on them, even if is tough, painful, or uncomfortable.

2. Don’t Check Out

Almost as dangerous and destructive as walking out on a relationship, emotionally checking out hurts everyone involved. If you partner has done something that you feel like you cannot forgive, be honest with yourself about that–do not simply fade out of the relationship. Many issues require a great deal of problem-solving and soul-searching. Do yourself and your partner a favor and be present emotionally.

3. Avoid Punishing Behavior

So your husband had to work late and missed your dinner date. Do not punish him by refusing to see his parents this weekend or by giving him the cold shoulder. If you are upset about something, talk about it and try to reach peace with the situation, rather than striking back.

4. Be A Team Player

Many problems in a relationship result from selfish behavior from one of the parties involved. Do you assume your wife will watch football with you and yet you refuse to sit through her makeover show? Or, is one person always stuck buying uniforms for the kids or carting them around to soccer practice? Selfish behavior builds resentment. Be honest about your behavior and be willing to change.

5.Talk to Each Other

Why does your boyfriend withdraw affection when you complain? Why did your girlfriend get so upset when you were talking to a female coworker at the office party? All couples have baggage. If you do not take the time to discover the root causes for your partner’s feelings, you will always hit roadblocks. Perhaps a former significant other cheated on them or they have a rocky relationship with a parent. Understanding each other will help you plan around conflicts when they arise.

6.Try Something New

Patterns of conflict can be established in a relationship. These obstacles can be hard to sidestep when they are part of our everyday habits. Change up your routine or trade a task with your partner. The newness will help your relationship, and it will allow you to avoid potential emotional landmines.

7.Understand Each Other’s Needs

Different needs are generally the source of every conflict. Maybe your wife needs to feel like she is more important to you than your buddies, and that is why she is sulking over your weekend fishing trip. Getting past the surface reason for a conflict–like petty everyday arguments–and finding the real problem will help you put small fights to rest for good.

8.Money Matters

Since we were all raised in different families with different spending habits, most individuals come into a relationship with conflicting priorities about money. If you are a saver and your significant other is a spender, this creates an ever-present turf-war around the checkbook. Talk openly and talk early in the relationship about financial roles and expectations.

9.Make Your Relationship A Priority 

Many arguments arise because one party in a relationship begins to feel slighted. Maybe your boyfriend looks at other women when you go out, so you decide to go alone. Maybe your girlfriend makes you feel inadequate, so you retreat to guy’s nights and your man cave. Perhaps your job is so competitive that you feel it needs your constant attention, or your kids are going through a dramatic phase. Whatever the cause, many of us stop working on our relationships, and they suffer. Make having a good relationship with your partner your number one priority.

10.Seek Help

Few of us are adequately trained or prepared to handle the stuff that life throws at us. If your relationships is on the rocks or could simply use some improvement, seek out a relationship counselor to help your work on your problems.

Working from home is a dream come true for a lot of us. We get to choose our own hours, spend more time with family, work in our PJ’s if we want to and can even take an unplanned day off! But as awesome as awesome as working from home is, it can seriously affect your creativity at times.

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Working at home alone, day in and day out can take its toll. You find yourself unable to concentrate, the quality of your work starts slipping, and every idea you come up with seems contrite and unimaginative. In short, you lose your creative spark.

Luckily, there are a number of ways to keep your creativity intact.

1.Take Your Work Ousite

If you’re feeling the walls of your office close in on you every time you try to concentrate, it may betime for a change of scenery. If you have a backyard, a front porch or even a balcony, consider taking your work outside. The fresh air, the hustle and bustle of your neighbourhood, or even the quietness of it may be what you need to revive your creativity.

If you live in an apartment, and don’t have access to any of the above, then head to your nearest park or coffee shop. Combine the fresh air with people-watching and your head will soon be brimming with ideas and possibilities! If nothing else, you’ll come back home feeling a lot better than how you were when you left.

2. Get Your Hand Dirty

Spending an entire day coding, designing, writing, editing or Photoshop-ing can take its toll. If your work is starting to swim in front of your eyes, it may be your brain’s way of telling you to take a break. Spend some time doing something with your hands – well, something other than moving your fingers over your keyboard. Instead of typing words and hitting commands that stopped making sense hours ago, step away from your computer and do something else.

Cook a meal for yourself and your family. Instead of hurrying through your lunch or dinner, take the time to enjoy it. Colour. Use crayons, paint or markers. Even if you just stencil your name, taking 30 minutes to create something with colours will relax your brain and give it something new to focus on.

If you have a garden or house plants, take the time to weed and water your plants. Pot a plant if everything’s tended for. Any gardening fan will tell you how rejuvenating working with plants is. Sometimes, doing something with your hands is just the boost your brain needs. Your creativity will thank you for it.

3. Work On A Personal Project

We all have a project or an idea for a project that we’d love to do if we ever had the time. Well, with your creativity fried, now is the time. Nothing boosts creativity like working on a project you’re personally vested in, even if it is something like reorganizing your office space. And you’re passionate about your personal project. You want it to be perfect. This project is what you want to stop doing everything for.

Nothing boosts creativity like passion. So start working on it. Your passion and enthusiasm for the project will take care of your creativity. Before long, you’ll be bursting with positive energy and ideas, and you’ll will want to work again!

4. Exercise

This is by far the toughest thing to do. But it’s also the most effective. Exercising is the one activity that is guaranteed to improve your overall mental well-being. So not only will your creativity be boosted, but you’ll feel more energetic, positive and healthier too!

If you don’t exercise, it is definitely time to get moving. Even if it’s as simple as doing Pilates at home, get your bums off the chair and onto an exercise mat. For those of you who already exercise (notice how I don’t include myself in the already exercising group?), it might be time for a change in the form of exercise you do. If you use a treadmill, head out for your run. If you run outside, try cycling or swimming or hiking.

Anything that gets your body moving is a guaranteed way to boost creativity.

5. Stop And Ask What's Wrong?

Stop! Stop doing whatever you’re doing right now. Whether it’s browsing, checking email or answering the phone. Now ask yourself why you’re not feeling creative. Is something stressing you (apart from your lack of creativity)? Is there something bothering you? What aspect of your personal or professional life feels off-balance?

Once you’ve pinpointed the problem, try and figure out how you can solve it. What can you do to make the situation better? Your problem may not be something that can be fixed immediately. But finding out what’s wrong and acknowledging that something is wrong may be all you need. You’ll find yourself feeling much ‘lighter’. You’ll be able to concentrate on your work too!

6. Meditate

Meditation is a great way to relax. The simple act of concentrating on your breathing can significantly reduce stress. You don’t even have to leave your chair if you don’t want to. Just turn off every ‘screen’ that’s on, close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing. Inhale and feel the air move through your body. Exhale and imagine all your stress leaving your body.

Of course, mine is a very amateurish take on meditation but focusing on your breathing really helps. There are plenty of excellent meditation resources that you can refer to online. Find one that suits your work schedule.

7. Take A Nap

If this is the first time your creativity has deserted you, then a nap may be all you need. Quickly go over your routine for the past month. Have you been going to bed on time? Getting enough sleep? Peaceful, uninterrupted sleep? If the answer is no to any of those questions, then a nap is in order.

Your nap can be anywhere from 15 minutes to two hours. It really depends on the needs of your body and the time of the day. I wouldn’t recommend taking a 2-hour nap at 5 pm!

If a nap is out of the question, focus on going to bed on time (or even earlier) to catch a little more sleep than you usually do. In a few days, your body would have recovered and your brain would be back to its fully functional creative self.

8. Collaborate

If a project has you stumped creatively and you’re wondering what’s wrong with you, here’s something you probably haven’t considered: The problem may not be you. Not all projects are created equal. Sometimes we need help. If you’re unsure on how to proceed on a project or can’t come up with ideas, then seek help from a friend.

Collaborate with another freelancer or even hire a consultant if you can. Two pairs of eyes are always better than one and two brains bouncing ideas off each other can be just what you need to get back in the groove of things.

9. Create A Virtual Water Cooler

Loneliness is a very common feeling among people who work from home. While office workers long for some peace and quiet to work in, freelancers who work from home long for just the opposite. If you work alone from home, then I’m pretty sure there have been times when an entire day has gone by without you uttering more than five words.

If you haven’t found yourself in good company in a while, then remedy the situation. Call a friend, a sibling or even your mom and talk to them. Skype with somebody in your field who also works from home. Join a small online forum, start tweeting, anything that gets you to interact with people.

This helps you create a virtual water-cooler not unlike those found in traditional offices that are a hotbed of gossip. The good thing with a virtual water-cooler is that you pick your own people and topics of conversations. So get talking to people and feel your creative mojo come back with every conversation you have.

10.Laugh

Laughter boosts creativity. Even the monsters in Monsters Inc. found it to be true! So who are we to argue with a Pixar cartoon? If you’re feeling stuck and uncreative, watch your favourite comedy movies and shows. Whether it’s the movie Hangover, the television show Big Bang Theory, or a medley of funny children and animal videos on Youtube, get watching!

Me? I’m going to go watch some Monty Python right now and give myself a much needed creative boost.